You dread it every year: visiting with the family during the stressful holiday season. For some, it only means an hour or two, but for others, they are forced to deal with the visiting aunts, uncles, grandmothers, and parents who are, how should we put this…less than pleasant to spend too much time with. This is where Vine Vera steps in! We want to offer you some advice on how to cope with your family gatherings this Holiday season, and help you maintain your sanity in the meantime.
Keep Visits Short and Sweet
For those who have the luxury of physically driving to a relative’s house this season and then leaving anytime they choose, you have one up on the rest of us! By keeping the visits short, pleasant, and friendly, you might actually be able to enjoy your time – and that’s all we all want, isn’t it? Stay as long as it takes to catch up, maybe have some coffee and a piece of pie, or even dinner, and then make your announcement to leave. It’s always best to make an early exit, rather than to say something you might regret.
Maybe the visit with Aunt Mildred is enough to make you want to put your head through the wall. Just because she is driving you insane, doesn’t mean you need to act like it! Don’t let her know she’s driving you nuts. Simply be polite, pleasant, and don’t respond to catty remarks or snide questions. If someone is making you feel uncomfortable, simply say so in a nice manner. There’s no need to get fiery or act irrational. Simply smile and say, ‘Bless your heart!” and watch how quick the tables can turn around.
Keep Separate Quarters
If you are having relatives stay with you – or worse, are invited to stay with relatives and you just can’t say no – try your best to keep a separate space in which you can escape to where they aren’t. It needs to be a space they respect, such as your bedroom or even a bathroom, where you won’t be bothered and can get away from it all. Go ahead, let it out – nobody can see you cry in the bathroom!
Find Ways to Entertain
Whether it’s a long movie or a trip out of the house with the family, find ways to keep everyone entertained and busy. Sometimes, too much talking leads to too many questions leads to frustration. Do you get our jist? The more occupied you all stay, the less likely there is to be a family feud. Board games are fun to play in large groups, as is taking a liesurley walk in a nearby park, or even taking the family out for dinner or a movie. Whatever you plan, make sure it gives you at least a while of relief and enjoyment!
Vine Vera gets how difficult it can be to cope with family visits during the holidays. We hope these tips help you to make it through…until next year!